Matthew Toone: The Secret to the Work Life Balance
“One thing I learned early on is that I fell victim to a lie. It was the idea that, working hard on a side business or an entrepreneurial venture, would free me up down the road to spend more time with my family"
The secret to the work life balance
Just like budgeting your income will help you spend less than you earn and save a great deal of money, budgeting your time will help you maximize each hour of your day. Budgeting your time into various categories will make sure that you leave nothing ignored.
“Maybe it seems like an impersonal thing, but I budget time for my family. I know from 6:30-9:30 every night it is my family time. Nothing is going to conflict with that. So even if I am working on an entrepreneurial venture or service in my church…there will be no phone calls, no emails I will let nothing interfere with my family time”.
“I might have to do moonlight hours late at night but I am budgeting my time for my family. I am budgeting time for service for work. If I don’t achieve all of my entrepreneurial goals because I took three hours in the evening and gave it to my family, because I eat breakfast with my family, because I am home for dinner, because I do a bed time routine with my kids…if my business fails because of that, so be it. But I will not let anything conflict with my family time. I have to set my schedule such so that I create the balance. I can’t just hope and juggle it”.
Whatever your dreams or ambitions – whatever you give your time and energy to will come to life. You can accomplish anything with a little bit of focus. Budget your time in a way that will get you to your goals. If you want a successful family life, you must budget time for it. If you want a successful business, you must budget time for it. Don’t let the Time Thief steal your time.
What will you sacrifice for success?
“I am ashamed to admit when I was writing Great Games! 175 Games & Activities for Families, Groups & Children! I sacrificed too much time with my family…About a year and a half into the book I snapped out of it. What was I doing? I was working hard with good intentions – to create income, to generate financial independence so that I could have more time with my family. Even if I did achieve my financial goals, I’ve lost what is most important…my family. That’s when I learned to never sacrifice your family, no matter what the entrepreneurial venture is”.
Not everyone who achieves success in business gets to keep their family. One of the most common responses that older successful people teach, when asked about the life lessons that they have learned, is the importance of the family. No one will ever tell you they are grateful that they do not have a good relationship with their children.
“One thing I learned early on is that I fell victim to a lie. It was the idea that, working hard on a side business or an entrepreneurial venture, would free me up down the road to spend more time with my family, so I justified long hours and working through the evenings and weekends and skipping dinner with my family. I did this with the right intent, thinking if I can just make this work, I will be a better husband and a better father because I’m going to have more time and resources down the road. The reality is that this type of thinking is a complete deception and a trap”.
“Even if you do achieve financial success with your business, if you continue this type of thinking, you will create a habit and will soon be locked into this mentality. How do you get out of that? Now, compound that with…when your kid is 12 years old and for the last 10 years dad hasn’t been around… why is he going to want to play with you? Why is he going to want to be with you? If there is anything that I have learned, it is the reality that this is a false mentality and you have to learn to balance everything. Work on it from 9-5, after the kids go to bed, but never sacrifice your family now because it will end up biting you. Even if you do succeed, you will look back on your life with regret if you sacrifice your family”.
A bit about Matthew
A few of the books that have guided him to success include:
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Matthew attributes this book to planting the entrepreneurial seed into his heart.
The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino
This book is one huge (yet small in number of pages) positive affirmation that will get you motivated to action.
A Heart Like His: Making Space for God’s Love in your Life by Virginia Pearce
This book taught Matthew how to think about and look at others the way that Christ would.